by Brian Griffith
Think of this entry as a follow-on to my wife’s post on comparison, but from a man’s perspective. This is not about body image, social status or if my car is good enough. Its about our spirituality and our tendency to judge ourselves by what we see in others.
As Julie pointed out in her post, there is a reason why God has not called us to compare ourselves to others. He has a plan and a purpose just for us. I recently realized that I have fallen into the trap of comparison, but with my walk, my faith and my relationship with God as the medium.
Many times when I read teachings from brothers anointed to instruct us, I begin to compare my walk with their’s. Often the message that they have been sent to give, gets lost in the comparison and comes to no effect. This is just another hidden plan of the enemy. I find the same thing often happens when I hear the testimony of another brother and how God has used or blessed him in a given area. I begin to think, “Why am I not being used or blessed so mightily?” “What am I doing wrong?”
The answer to these questions is simple. God did not call us to compare ourselves to others, even (or especially not) gifted men of God. The Lord has a unique plan for each of us, and unique means, it doesn’t look like anything else! And yet the thoughts come creeping in..” I must not be as valuable to God.”, “God can’t use me like that.”, “I must not be pleasing to God, or He would be using me, blessing me or exalting me like brother so-and-so.” Lies! Sent by the enemy to discourage, distract, delay and defeat God’s purpose in our own lives.
Comparison can not only affect how we view our purpose in God, it can affect our very relationship with Him. When we listen to another brother relating his experience with the presence of God, and we start to feel like, “I don’t have a relationship with God that looks like that.” , we start to believe another lie. God has a unique relationship with each of us and it cannot be compared to anyone else’s!
We, as men, do not talk about this enough. We need to acknowledge that this happens, and face it down as the lie from the enemy that it is. Think about how much more effective we would be in our calling if we stopped comparing ourselves to our brothers. We need to accept that God knows what He is doing and He has everything figured out perfectly. We need to stop thinking that our walk, purpose or relationship should look like anyone else’s, and trying to make it conform to what someone else has or has experienced.
God has a unique, powerful and amazing plan for each of us. We need to step out of the way, believe fully in Him and His purpose, and devote ourselves to what He tells and shows us, is for each us. Resist the trap of the enemy to compare yourself and seek the author of your plan, you will never be disappointed!